It refers to the process through which a person recognises, acknowledges and finally accepts their gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender identity. This can take years or even decades for some people, as they have to come out to themselves before they can be ready to come out to others. Some people are selectively “out” in some settings (with friends) and “closeted” in other settings (at work or with family). Others may even be “outed” or forced to “come out” by others before they are ready, privately or publicly.
11 October every year marks Coming Out Day. It is not just a day for every gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender person to come out of the closet. Instead, it is a civil action day for everyone to raise awareness and promote discussion about GLBT-relevant issues. You don’t have to be gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender to observe this day. You can be a gay-friendly supporter, or a straight ally! The Singapore Queer-Straight Alliance (SinQSA) is an example of what this collaboration is about.