If so did you go to court to get it or does your state automatically give it to the mother? What state are you in? If you went to court, how long did it take you and how much (estimate) did it cost you? Was it a civil case or did you and your ex bf/dh argue it out?
Do your exes have visitation or anything? What about child support?
ETA: I already recieve c.s. (when he chooses to pay it, which is about every 6 months to avoid going to jail) In NC both parents have equal rights unless a parent has papers stating otherwise. I bumped my story that I posted earlier this year. It's 6 parts and it explains the history between him and I.