Re: So I kotegaishi'd my girlfriend...
It is always the same when someone asks you to show them waht is Aikido.
They want you to show them how it works but it is not karate or boxing so you cannot do it 'in the air' you need a partner... trouble is when you try it on them if you go too softly they would be like"I don't feel a thing, it doesn't work" but if you really do it they scream in pain and get angry.
Some people would accept 'soft' demonstration and be happy with it but some will demand for you to do it 'hard'... I would and afterwords I would tell them:"You aked to see what it is, didn't you?"