Passive AggressiveMy husband very very very often throws that phrase at me when we argue. And yeah, I'm aware that I have my moments, but I was just doing some reading about "The Passive Aggressive Man," and OH. MY. GOD. It is him. Completely and utterly.
I'm not sure why I feel so shocked by it. It seems like common sense now. The forgetfulness, the withholding sex, the seeming perfectly happy one minute then pouty the next... Implying that I am controlling and unreasonable for not, for example, thinking it's okay for him to disappear to hang out late with friends when he hasn't given me ANY advance notice (we have two small children). Complaining and moping about how tired and depressed and miserable he is for MONTHS and then acting like I'm insane when I ask if he'll see a doctor/therapist for his depression. "I'M not depressed! Are YOU depressed???"
Just wow. Lights, coming on over here.