Human self-esteem can be divided into conditional self-esteem and unconditional self-esteem. The former is self-esteem obtained by reaching some preset standards. The sense of self-worth depends on the realization of these standards, rather than the true needs of the self. Conditional self-esteem people often do not understand their own needs, and their self-esteem standards are internalized. If the parents' love is conditional, they will reward their desires and punish the undesirable behaviors, which imposes standards of behavior on the children. Children will unconsciously regard this standard as their life pursuit. Conditional self-esteem is often expressed through strong self-awareness. Such people always see themselves through the eyes of others.
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