I found this book difficult to identify with. It has many examples of relationships using blame and anger. This was not my situation, I very much love my husband and was hurt and in shock. He did not fit the assumed profile of any of the men listed in this book and our relationship is unlike those used as example.I read Tolle's a New Earth and examined his chapter on "Pain-bodies" and ego and found it felt very true for my situation.I am sorry you have been through hell, but this book will probably not heal you.