Over 40 Dating First Impressions
Naturally, I believe in online relationships. You are able to meet people you should have met, but whose paths you’d probably never have crossed. You can find information on perfect strangers which could take you weeks, maybe months, to obtain, just by reading a profile and looking at Forty Plus Singles’s Duet? Analysis Profile, an innovative 360? presentation of its members.
Still, inevitably, there are a few things learned one on one, which is why we all be worried about what will happen in the first meeting. The coffee, drink, walk, etc., finally comes, usually after weeks of exchanging emails and call calls. And then…it is frequently too quickly and abruptly over. I believe that’s a flaw in the way a lot of people use the system.
Now, I realize why it’s abruptly ended if someone else has misrepresented themselves. Perhaps the trainer told us they were weight and height proportional, much more reality, they are 75 pounds heavier than promised. Or, perhaps they’re 20 years older or much younger than they looked inside their photo, and you wanted someone this they presented as opposed to the age they turned out to be. I understand why this can be the end of story.
But, let’s say they are only 10 pounds heavier, chattier than you anticipated, or less successful than you had hoped. Or maybe, they may be everything they said these were, but there just wasn’t a “spark” between you. In cases like this, I’d say don’t be so hasty! Ever met someone at the party or been introduced somewhere, and felt nothing? Then, after a while, you’ve gotten to know he and suddenly, 1 day you realize you are making a soft spot inside your heart for them. You see your interest perks up after they walk into the room. Haven’t you ever surprised yourself someone complain about and come to like on them time rather than immediately?
Movies are full of plots based on faulty first impressions. All of those other movie is spent with the two people trying to get over their initial feelings. They begin to realize they were wrong first of all and they might have missed something vital.
So, this is what I’m suggesting that you think about. Don’t be so quick to dismiss someone if they are not exactly as you thought they might be. Don’t expect all chemistry to become immediate and strong. Give someone that seems worthwhile a while longer than you have before before you move on. You could possibly discover it was “The One” who almost got away…and it would have been the biggest loss of your life.