I took it as you summarizing the debate, which was soft selling the antigay comments as 'disagreeng but accepting'. The left handed thing was idioitc. No you totally missed the point. You acting as if saying to your friend what he does is gross but you won't hold it against him is the same as telling a minority that something unique to them is gross but you look the other way. Such as telling an Asian, "those slanty eyes are really creepy, but I won't hold that against you and I'll still let you be my friend".