Ive been with my boyfriend for three years, and our sex life has always been bland. I fantasize about other men and situations, and when Im alone, I look at porn and wish hed do certain things to me. How can I convince him to?
That said, you cant just come out and tell him you think hes boring. Hell find that to be a serious betrayal and wonder why youve never said anything. Instead, why not suggest you watch some porn together? When you see something that turns you on, tell him that youd like to try it with him and itd make you feel hot if he did it to you.
Tread carefully, however, because you dont want him to get a complex about not being hung like Rex Hardwicke. You need to make sure everything you say is about what you want to do with your guy. During sex, show him what you like instead of waiting for him to figure it out magically. Then sing his praises when he does something you love. Porn + positive reinforcement = a perfect recipe for great sex.