I am adopted, it happened 50 years ago but still fascinates people despite the fact I forget about it unless someone else brings it up. I would like to know if anybody here has ever adopted a baby and then birthed a baby, and did you feel differently because one was genetically yours? I was adopted at birth, I always felt completely loved and never felt it mattered. Do adoptive parents ever "forget" the child is adopted and it's just their child, because I don't think people who don't adopt think so.
The other day my husband commented that an African American adopted by white parents he knows, called them mom and dad, just like I called my parents mom and dad. WTH? Why are we different than he and his parents? They ARE mom and dad! I know it is pure ignorance on his part, he wasn't being mean, just clueless like people I've run into my whole life. I've known people who had family members with adopted kids and they always have to tell people "They adopted him, you know......" Being adopted was just never a topic in my house and I never felt less loved or like a charity case or shorted. Oh, and I found my birth family due to curiosity and medical reasons. My birth mother and I kept in touch a little until she passed away. I respected what she did for me because I've had the greatest life, but I never felt any bond with her just because we were blood related. My mother was the woman who raised me.