Posted , updated Mar 02, 2006.
Everyone gets into conflicts, including young children. A goal parents have for their children is that they learn to get along with others. Families are a great place for children to learn to get along.
At times parents can stay close while doing other tasks. At other times they must step in with action. Squabbles can erupt very quickly.
Set Rules and Limits
Children learn by repetition and will learn to say the rules as we ask and remind them. “What is the rule about hurting? Ignoring teasing and bullying behavior gives a message it is okay. Most children will push till they know the limits we set for them.
Ways To Encourage Getting Along And Problem Solving
• Work together toward a common goal
• Provide space where children can play alone and relax.
• Provide opportunities for children to help each other (push a stroller, get diapers, help pick up other’s toys), and say “thanks”.
• Model handling strong emotions. Use a calm voice. Delay talking about things when you are upset. “I’m upset. I can’t talk about this right now. We will talk about it later.”
• Teach ways to handle anger. “Walk away or hug your bear until you are calm. Use words or ask for help”
• Resolve conflicts without violence
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