"I don't like being vulnerable. It makes me feel like I'm weak."
It's a common belief, a myth, that being vulnerable is weak or makes you look weak. The opposite is actually true.
Weak is not being able to withstand harm, while being vulnerable means you are open to it. It doesn't mean you will be harmed; it simply means that you believe the relationship, yourself, or the other person is worth the risk.
I am not suggesting being a martyr or allowing yourself to be abused. However, if you experience painful emotions, it doesn't mean the relationship is abusive.
All abusive relationships are unhealthy, but all unhealthy relationships are not abusive.
When we're vulnerable, we expose ourselves to pain, but we also expose ourselves to love, joy, and peace. It's a choice that demonstrates our strength.
"I know I may get hurt, but I can find a way through it. The relationship is worth the risk."
When unhealthy relationships heal, vulnerability is the strength that's needed.