Originally Posted by Marcus
She is the primary and you were the secondary; which means they don't give a shit if you get it or not. The only thing that is important is if the primary relationship is healthy. Which, of course, is total and complete bullshit.
I agree with Marcus, because in all likelihood, while the husband may be reacting to an immediate danger to his sense of well-being - the immediate withdrawal of his wife's sexual affections, and more importantly what that signifies to the two of them - when the dust settles, he is going to resent her for it. It may also diminish her value to him over time.
Ultimatums like that do not create loving, healthy relationships.