By concept of
love-marriage in Islam if you mean that the Qur’ān recommends or condemns it
directly anywhere, then most certainly that is not the case. However if one were
to look at the spirit of the Qur’ān and the Sunnah, the following understanding
1. Both bridegroom and bride have
to willingly approve the idea of their marriage. Therefore, there can be no
objection to the fact that the spouses-to-be know each other well enough to take
2. In the process of knowing each
other, they can interact within the limits of decency. However, they should not
meet each other and remain together for long durations alone.
3. Before getting married,
although exchange of messages in the form of emails, sms messages etc is not
disallowed, such exchanges should not degenerate into expression of unacceptable
expressions. One should avoid, for example, expressing one’s emotions of love
for the other person before marriage. That expression should be reserved
exclusively for post-marriage life.
4. Feelings of love for the other
person cannot be considered unacceptable. Such feelings are in fact quite
natural in many cases. However, one should not do anything indecent to
communicate and promote it.