I keep having one-night stands, even though they make me feel rubbish afterwards. I promise myself I'll wait for the right guy, but after a few drinks, I start thinking, `I'm single, horny and sick of waiting for Mr Right - why shouldn't I have some fun?' But it doesn't help. Why can't I just say no?
What do you get when you cross a single, horny woman with a large vodka tonic? The answer is...trouble! You're in a dangerous sex-shame cycle that will only get worse. Repeating the same mistake and expecting a different result is the definition of crazy. You need an action plan. Start by making a decision to go cold turkey and tell a trusted friend. We're more likely to commit to a plan if we share it. Write a message to yourself on a Post-it saying "NO SEX" and put it in your purse so that every time you see it, it'll remind you of your new resolve. No one's saying you have to stop having fun - you can still flirt, snog and take a phone number; just go home alone afterwards!