Well I set up squares of black construction paper around the container so that the female and male weren't freaking out and trying to get out. I just put my small black heater(in picture) in the container to keep the water at a perfect temperature and I kept it off of the wall of the container so that the female could hide behind it if needed. I also covered the top of the container with a square of black construction paper so that there were no bugs flying around, distracting them. From there I just let nature take it's course. I kept a very close eye on them the first day to make sure that they both got along and today I was out basically all day and they spawned without me there. I've removed the female now and she is in her own tank, recovering. I'm not really sure why the male didn't kill her, he just didn't. I think it has something to do with the tank size. If you give the pair a bigger tank and let the male establish a territory he may become more violent. He may also think, once they are done, that he can chase the female away and she will stay away since there is so much space. With my pair, I put them in at the same time so that the male didn't establish a territory.
I hope this helped a little.