Trying to apologize in general can be a very painstaking and humbling experience. Now try apologizing to a teen girl, with all her stubbornness and hormone-induced problems. Head hurt yet? That's why this article is here.
1Let it simmer down. If you try to apologize too soon you could ruin your chances of her accepting your apology.Ad
2Try to find out what you did wrong or why she's mad at you. You can try asking mutual friends that she regularly talks to, but see Warnings for more info.
3Plan an apology in advance. Think very carefully about what you want to say and how you say it.
4Write her a note. Try to make it as long as you can, but don't be too mushy about it. Girls want to feel like they mean a lot to you, but don't gush over her.
5Find some way of giving the note to her. Slip it in her locker, hide it in her textbook, give it to a friend (see Warning for this one)....be creative!
6Wait. This is the hardest part of apologizing, but you'll tell if it worked.Ad
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- Most importantly, make sure you mean every single word you say. If you don't, don't even bother apologizing.
- Make sure you look good on the day you plan to apologize. It's kind of awkward when she gushes over an apology from a guy who looks like he just crawled out of a box.
- Be fancy, but not too fancy. Pull out a few big words to show you're serious about apologizing, but don't pretend you're writing a college essay.
- Add a little poetry or song lyrics in your apology for that extra "Aw!" factor. But don't overdo it.
- Be creative! Tape a Sour Patch Kid to the paper because it represents how bitter you are without her, or slap on a Band-Aid because it represents how you hope to patch up the friendship.
- Be careful if you chose to have a friend deliver the apology. She might take it as a sign of weakness: Why couldn't you give it to her yourself?
- If you do decide to talk to her friends about her, make sure she doesn't find out. It's only gonna tick her off more.
- Some girls are just naturally stubborn. You can't expect an apology to work all the time. You tried, that's all that matters.
- Be extra careful apologizing if she has a boyfriend. You could be seen as competition.
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