You wouldnt need that movement in the first place if that evil did not exist at all. You are thankful for the reation to it, not the act itself. No im not thankful for any genocide, war crime or tragady. If you are, then you are one fucked up person.
They mention that poor woman but no-one knows her real name. But they also won't mention that another Indian lady was gang raped and told by the police that she has to marry one of her rapists. How come that is not in the news?
Yes, in the news. But there are many cases like this in India. A religious cleric even said that if she had been 'nice' to her attackers she might have lived. Says it all really about societies like that
I prefer doing things right the first time, by anticipating and accounting for likely problems.
The problem is that everyone just ignores you and does none of your recommendations until the problem actually happens, by which time it's too late to do anything but say "I told you so" and prevent the next time... which is small consolation to the person whose purpose in life was to serve as an example to others.
Well it was illegal then too, it's just now that it happened in plain daylight in a big city it really smacks you in the face. Like if some girl got raped out in the mountains and Kentucky we'd be like "that's tragic." If a girl got raped in New York City on the bus on the way to home during the day you'd say "Where is the world coming to?!"
The truly sad thing is we have to re-enforce these things. Laws are a reaction.
From what I've heard from someone who lived there and has family there, that's actually true for an appalling amount of men and women even within the government and law enforcement. Furthermore, the rape victim is then ostracized if she goes public about it because she is viewed to have lost her purity, she is deemed unfit for marriage, and that's somehow deemed her fault on top of it, so she's put down and ignored by law enforcement moat often. One person in law enforcement has stated things as outrageous as: "It's her fault she must have smiled at them." Apparently a lot of people in law enforcement are people that have broken plenty laws themselves, so it's like being guarded by the devil from not even himself. Needless to say, when my hubby was done recounting what he knew and links for news on the subject, I was about ready to become a suicide bomber for the cause, because it doesn't seem like these people understand anything but respect through force.
I can kind of understand the purity shit, since the whole of humanity glorified virginity since the dawn of time. But shunning her, blaming her? What the fucking fuck. I know Muslim countries are horrible in that sense that they lash and/or stone their women for being raped, but I thought India has progressed from that a bit more.
And the whole "unfit for marriage" bit just pissed me off personally. As if a "woman's purpose" is to be a wife and bear children. Then people wonder why I reject Indians as suitors...when the majority of them think they're complementing me by saying You're gonna be a good wife some day.
I've never understood why virginity is prized so much.
Usually if you're a woman who's a virgin past the age of your early 20s, it means either you're ultra-religious (and so not going to be much fun) or nobody wants to fuck you (which means you're basically a total hideous freak, as you have to have something really wrong with you to overcome the big attraction advantage of being a woman).
You read a myth. A woman's fertility is based on her menstrual cycle and internal factors, not on how many times she's done it.
The theory that a woman losing her virginity is more likely to not have arranged reliable birth control for the act than an already sexually active woman, is a more likely explanation for any bias towards women getting pregnant from their first time. (If there is any such bias; I honestly don't know.)
And, if a woman is so ugly/undesirable that she can't get laid, why would you want her to bear your children?
I fall under the "freak who's always friendzoned" category. At this point I'm pretty sure that I'm never going to find a guy interested in me, and if I do, he'll instantly dump me the second he finds out I'm a virgin, because he's going to wonder what the fuck is wrong with me that a woman my age who's agnostic never got laid.
How else am I supposed to react to nobody ever asking me out, and almost everyone I ask out telling me they "think of me as a sister/friend"?
My ex-boyfriend only dated me because he'd just broken up with his girlfriend, and dumped me to go back out to her when she made up with him. And my ex-girlfriend dumped me because, essentially, she got bored with me.
I'm not sure how I'm supposed to have any self-esteem from that.
And if you found out someone you were dating was in their 30s, wasn't religious, and wasn't just overly picky/asexual/not interested, yet was still a virgin, what would you conclude? Especially if they're a woman, in a society in which even the feminists act like any woman with even a slight amount of attractiveness can get laid any time she wants and gets lots of male attention?
Like I said, not sure how I'm supposed to have a lot of self-esteem here.
In India there are still arranged marriages, though certain areas have a modern version for it so the 2 meet and talk for literally half h before then they let their parents know whether it's a yes or no. And they can pick among what suitors their parents pick. Because family is that involved, it's actually deemed shameful towards the whole family to be associated with the event, so even her family would want to convince her to keep it secret. So by unfit for marriage I meant a lot of traditional families wouldn't accept her even if she wanted it.
I know about arranged marriages (which is bull in my opinion), but seriously. How is it shameful to be violated? How is it the victim's fault. It is the rapist that should be shunned, hated, lashed and killed as far as I'm concerned. I need to stop thinking about backwards countries' traditions and laws, it really pisses me off and New Year is only a few hours away.
No. No it isn't. Talking about these issues is good. One would have to be a sadist to choose such evil as a means to spark discussion as a nation. Though it often is the case because people reach a breaking point.