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Join Date: May 2003
Location: The English Riviera
Sorry to here that, dude.
I know this might sound a bit harsh but you're probably better off without her. There seems to be a lot of "give and take" here, but not in the way it should be (you're giving, she's taking).
I agree with you, "dinner with girl friends from work" sounds a little like a euphamism for something. As for her "borrowing" money and having to look after her kids etc, that sounds like a recipe for disaster too.
All that said, it is your decision. It depends how much you like her, where it's going, stuff like that. Man, I'm beginning to sound like Dear Deidre. Good luck with it though, hope you sort it out soon.