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Whether you're dealing with friends, family, a lover, or co-workers, you'll benefit from the communication skills taught in this Howcast video series. Among the advice included: how to tell someone off; how to deliver an ultimatum; how to complain; how to solve creative differences; how to give a compliment; how to take criticism; how to apologize; how to read social cues; how to learn to say no; and much more.
You Will Need
- Realistic attitude
- Self control
- Anger management classes (optional)
Accept yourself and enjoy life. Look at your own habits of avoidance and manipulation and be honest about your need to feel guilty or responsible when someone wants to get a reaction out of you.
Discuss the facts
Discuss objective facts, not feelings. You will reduce conflict and the nagging self-doubt that follows.
Use "I" message
Use "I" messages to confront the person. Let them know how their behavior makes you feel. Maintain your dignity and communicate faith in the other person's ability to solve what is actually their problem.
Encourage passive-aggressive people to take on more tasks so they can’t blame others by opting out of participation.
Be realistic about the passive-aggressive person's ability to change and don’t delude yourself into thinking you can solve their problems. Such 'caretaking' may only solidify their behaviors.
Handle your stress
Handle your stress whenever you have to deal with a passive-aggressive person. Don’t complicate things by dwelling on your frustrated expectations.