The old saying 'fake it until you make it' may work in many different situations but not necessarily in bed, according to a new study published this month in 'Archives of Sexual Behavior' by Erin Fallis, Professor Uzma S. Rehman and Professor Christine Purdon in the Department of Psychology at Waterloo.
The study found that whether you are satisfied in bed, unsatisfied, or faking your satisfaction, your partner is likely to know. The study also found, on average, that both men and women are perceptive enough to recognize if their partner is satisfied. And this is important, communication about sexual concerns helped but isn't necessarily required for the man or woman to be fairly accurate in understanding his/her sexual satisfaction.
"We found that, on average, both men and women have fairly accurate and unbiased perceptions of their partners' sexual satisfaction. We also found that having good communication about sexual issues helped participants to understand their partners' sexual satisfaction. However, even if sexual communication was lacking, a person could still be fairly accurate in gauging his or her partner's sexual satisfaction if he or she was able to read emotions well." ~ Erin Fallis, PHd candidate.
This examiner always recommends keeping the lines of communication open in all matters but it is nice to see that this study shows both sexes on average show the ability to be perceptive in this area. This helps to develop a sexual script between the couple. A sort of sexual routine and being able to perceive the satisfaction level of each other in bed will help to maintain a good sexual relationship or maybe develop foundation to make changes for both parties to find satisfaction in the sexual script/routine.
"The next step in this research is to look at the impacts of having more or less accurate perceptions of one's partner's sexual satisfaction over time in long-term relationships. We expect that having a more accurate understanding of one's partner's sexual satisfaction will have positive impacts for both partners' sexual satisfaction and we're eager to test this idea." ~ Erin Fallis
Check out more details on the study here.
The important point is that if you're in a relationship where you're faking satisfaction your partner most likely knows this. Thoughts? Feel free to leave your comments below.