We all have our good days and bad days. But if you feel yourself getting yucky-nervous (not butterfly-nervous) before a date, or you start to feel down about yourself, try one or two of these tips. The main point is that before a date, you want to stay busy so you’re not overthinking the date and building it up or psyching yourself out.
1. Watch a 30 Rock episode or something that always makes you laugh. TV is wonderfully distracting.
2. Have a glass of wine. Or two. Unless you’re driving.
3. Think, Why should this person make me feel nervous? Anyway, the right person will make you feel relaxed.
4. Say an affirmation. Stuart Smalley always said, “I’m good enough, I’m smart enough, and doggone it, people like me.” Say something like that, e.g. "I am beautiful, I am worthy of love " I swear if you say an affirmation enough times, it will go to your head.
5. Wear high heels, a perfume you love, or whatever helps you stand tall and feel awesome.
6. Exercise. No, I’m not saying you’re fat. But moving around is a good way to help yourself. You just have to choose to do so. And hey, endorphins, calorie-burning, confidence it’s a win-win-win.
7. Flex your muscles. When you feel strong, you’ll feel ready to take on the world. Or a random dude.
9. Plan ahead and give yourself time so you’re not rushing. And don’t be late!
10. Remind yourself that it’s just a date. It’s just coffee. It’s just one person. You could be with a lot of people. The odds that this guy will be The One are small. And if he is The One, the date will be easy.
11. Get a pep talk from a friend or relative who thinks you’re the shit.
12. Ask for advice if you think it will help you. I mean, it’s never a bad idea to research or do homework before an interview, so why not study a little?
13. You’re hot.
Have a wonderful, self-esteemy weekend! And remember, you deserve to have all the confidence in the world. Why? Because I said so. And because you’re good enough, you’re smart enough, and doggone it, people like you.
What do you like to do or tell yourself before a date? How do you get your game face on?