the idea that a person transitioning from a consensus to an individuated state, not understanding what is happening, may blame society for its newly felt sense of alienation. On the one hand, there is the social conditioning, which is true. On the other hand, there is the need for personal responsibility.
yes those things can be true. The hallmark of stage 1 indiv is a feeling of being different and not wanting to be different, trying to hide the differences, compensating by acting "normal" (i.e. how everyone else does). Typically the true "normal" people can see there is something different about that person anyway.
If the person is of a masochistic temperament they could blame self for their sense of alienation "What is wrong with me?, why can't I be like everyone else?". Whereas others would blame external forces, victimization (a Pisces attribute).
As the Soul evolves into the higher forms of the individuated stage it learns that feeling alienated is part of the price it must pay for being an individual, since at least 70% of people (consensus) are not individuals (don't think for themselves). To a person who follows the herd, a person who thinks for self is perceived as threatening.
People follow the herd because they believe that brings security - acceptance by the mass of the group. The individuated person has begun to notice that this acceptance is dependent on conforming to the collective's (conditioned) beliefs/values, that when one's views are contrary, the acceptance disappears. Thus that is not real security at all. The ultimate lesson is that the only true security is within.
Most of us have been conditioned to look without for security. That becomes the source of the alienation- "so few see things as I do". At first it feels lonely and limiting. Through following that path one becomes increasingly aware of their own uniqueness - which becomes increasingly liberating. Thus the price of alienation is balanced by increased self-awareness. Souls making the transition from consensus to individuated don't yet have that increased self-awareness. Thus they may experience more of the detrimental aspects of that process, and so resist it.
To tie this back to the evolutionary condition of children, when you see signs in a child of a capacity to be an individual, to not let the need for approval from others limit its forms of self-expression, who seems to understand in some deep way some essential things about the nature of life, is described by others as being wise beyond their years, these are signs of a Soul that is in a more advanced evolutionary state. Signs of this can be seen from early childhood. They are going to FEEL all that alienation - it does not go away in the spiritual state - if anything it intensifies - but it can be better accepted in the spiritual state - the Soul has come to take it as a given. Whether they LIKE it is another issue altogether - acceptance is required. The same sort of questions or signs you would look for in an adult in terms of determining evolutionary stage can be applied to a child - they are just going to express these words or attitudes in ways aligned with the way a child will think. They are still a child, even if the soul is very highly evolved. The working of these things is what EA calls Natural Law - it is the way that life is, that life actually works, regardless of what I think about those ways. Its simply What Is, self-evident.