Untitled Document. Emotions Are A Resource, Not A Crutch. Ever since Darwin, and perhaps long before him, it has been theorized that our emotions play a crucial role in adapting to our environment.
This means that emotions are not just an inconvenient byproduct of consciousness, but a form of higher cognition – an ability for living beings to experience their world in deeper and more complex ways. Humans are a species that thrive on social relations, and our emotions become a gauge on morality and justice. They help facilitate our interactions by giving us clues on how to connect with others in meaningful and productive ways. When someone makes us feel bad our emotions tell us to ignore them, while when someone makes us feel good our emotions tell us to appreciate them.
Emotions however come in many different qualities, degrees, and intensities. Perhaps more important than how researchers conceptualize different emotions is how we experience them. Sources  LAROS, F., & STEENKAMP, J. (2005) .  McNAIR, D. Home - Emoclear Self-Helpapedia. Wave of Emotions. Emotions Are A Resource, Not A Crutch.
Lack of Emotions. This is a counseling session for a lack of emotions.
If you would like personalized help with a lack of emotions or another issue, click on the button to find out more. Also read my Counseling Blog for even more free self help tools: Be one of the first people invited to my new Facebook page! I am looking forward to interacting with your comments and posts. The Counseling Situation My question is how do I get my feelings back? I asked for more information to write the most helpful counseling response. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. Here are the answers to your questions. I try to remember feeling happy or sad and I even look at pictures of me smiling and having fun but I can't remember what that feels like. I'm not sure of that. My friend says I'm going to have a stroke one day because I keep everything inside. My boyfriend says I'm a walking time bomb waiting to explode. The Counseling Response We either feel our emotions or we don’t. How can I successfully identify and release my emotions? - emotions meditation emotional.
How can I successfully identify and release my emotions?
I experienced a very controlled childhood during which I needed to suppress my emotions and wants in order to avoid conflict. As a result I find it difficult to identify emotions inside of myself and to find a satisfying way of releasing them. I've tried some techniques like sitting down with focused breathing and listening inward, but I often find the emotions to be too intense and I avoid doing it. It's not that I am incapable of feelings emotions, but that I have difficulty identifying exactly which emotion I'm feeling and why. I particularly feel scared of mixed emotions and try to avoid thinking about them without even realizing I'm doing it.
I found a website listing a technique of identifying emotions using a "feeling vocabulary list" that you can pull words from and make sentences out of which seems fairly approachable to me. Emotions – How To Understand, Identify and Release Your Emotions. Home -> Free Articles - Emotions - How To Understand, Identify Release Your Emotions. · What Are Emotions – Feelings?
Different people define emotions in different ways. Some make a distinction between emotions and feelings saying that a feeling is the response part of the emotion and that an emotion includes the situation or experience, the interpretation, the perception, and the response or feeling related to the experience of a particular situation. For the purposes of this article, I use the terms interchangeably.
John D. Dr. . · Why Bother With Emotions: Emotions control your thinking, behavior and actions. . · Belief Systems Underlying much of our behavior is what is called a belief system. Your belief system affects your perceptions or how you interpret what you see, hear and feel. It takes a lot of work to look at yourself and identify the beliefs that are affecting your life in a negative manner. . · Other People, Places, and Things Cannot Change How You Feel · How We Repress Emotions.
How can I successfully identify and release my emotions? - emotions meditation emotional. Six Steps (en) Introduction Most people find it easier to learn focusing through individual instruction than through simply reading about it.
The actual process of focusing, experienced from the inside, is fluid and open, allowing great room for individual differences and ways of working. Yet to introduce the concepts and flavor of the technique, some structure can be useful. We offer one approach here: six steps. Although these steps may provide a window into focusing, it is important to remember that they are not THE six steps. There are other ways of describing the focusing process. So, with the caveat that what follows is a simple scaffolding for you to use as long as it's useful and then to move beyond, we offer to you six steps, a taste of the process. What follows is a lightly edited excerpt from The Focusing Manual, chapter four of Focusing.
The inner act of focusing can be broken down into six main sub-acts or movements. Think of this as only the basics. Clearing a space Felt Sense Handle Asking. Mind Over Mood: Change How You Feel by Changing the Way You Think (9780898621280): Dennis Greenberger, Christine Padesky. Rock Your Day. Dec 27, 2010 When you have major changes going on in your life, or you’re just frustrated about where you are, it’s easy to get trapped in a cycle of depression, bad moods and frustration.
I know, I’ve been there … and when I’m not careful, I still get there more than I want to. But when I’ve had a particularly hard time, I hit these moments where I’m in a foul mood, or I’m just feeling paralyzed, and I’m just stuck. Sometimes I just stew in that and stay there, but sometimes I actually get intelligent and pull my way out of it. I’m going to outline the framework that I’ve been using successfully to really get myself resourceful and motivated (and in a better mood) when I’m feeling stuck. First Up: Using A Framework to Escape From Paralyzing Emotions When we feel bad, it’s hard to “feel good” again.
The reason for this is that steps take the emotion out of our situation and give us direction to simply act. A: AGREE With Yourself That You Don’t Want To Be In This Mood Right Now. Dave. Feeling Words. Revenge. The passion for revenge is strong and sometimes almost overwhelming.
But our intuitive logic about revenge is often twisted, conflicted, parochial, and dangerous. Revenge is a primitive, destructive, and violent response to anger, injury, or humiliation. It is a misguided attempt to transform shame into pride. Many governments, religions, traditions, and cultures provide guidance on when revenge may and may not be sought. Unfortunately this guidance is often unsatisfactory because it excludes groups of people, often mistreats women, generally leads to escalation, is unevenly applied, and typically leads to prolonged and escalated violence. Definitions The desire to get even, Retaliation for injury, loss, or humiliation, An attempt to transform shame into pride.
Roots: from revengier : re- + vengier, from Latin vindicāre, to avenge again, vindicate. Synonyms Related terms Revenge is the hurtful side of reciprocity, and many terms are related to the concept. The Paradox of Revenge Sunk Costs. Why Resisting Your Emotions Actually Intensifies Them. Do you resist your emotions, or do you allow yourself to feel your feelings fully?
I used to resist my emotions and only welcomed the good feelings, while fighting back the ones that seemed too much to handle. However, I came to realize that it was my thoughts about those emotions (not the actual emotions) that I was fearful of. I didn't want to experience an intense emotion because the idea of losing control seemed frightening. For example, I used to worry that if I let myself feel sad, I'd spiral into unrelenting sadness. I tried to overlook my emotions, adopt a positive mindset and move on with my life. I see now that it can be easy for us to get caught in a loop when it comes to our emotions, which causes us to resist them. I've learned a different approach. Here's what I've found. 1. By letting emotions exist in your body, you'll create a sense of spaciousness and freedom within. It's when you resist your emotions that you'll feel trapped by them. 3. Photo Credit: Shutterstock.com. Breaking The Chains. Condescending Attitude You know those people who spend most of their time critical of everything and everyone, where it seems like every encounter is a battleground for proving supremacy?
They say malicious, hateful, contemptuous things and try to make others, who they unconsciously consider to be adversaries, feel small. You can see this phenomenon all over the […] Continue Reading » Challenge Yourself Through Physical Exercise There are some very good psychological reasons, along with the obvious health benefits, to challenge yourself through daily physical exercise. Continue Reading » Projecting Discomfort Onto Your Partner I watched an uncomfortable scene unfold at a coffee shop that will serve as a good example for a type of abuse that occurs in romantic relationships. Continue Reading » Relatedness Continue Reading » Talking To Your Inner Child So many cheesy self-help books have been written about finding your inner child.
Continue Reading » Leave The Past Behind Continue Reading » Emotional Skills Toolkit. We often hear from people who feel overwhelmed by stress, family, work and relationship problems, health challenges, and painful emotions.
They’ve tried many approaches to help themselves feel better, but they just can’t seem to follow through, or what they’ve done hasn't helped them enough. If this sounds familiar, you know that it’s all too easy to become discouraged when you’re stuck. The problem is not willpower—all the willpower in the world won’t matter if you can’t manage stress or keep your emotions in balance. The good news: you can learn these important emotional skills, no matter your age or the obstacles you face.
That’s what this free online program teaches. Skill building, like any learning, takes time and effort. Emotional Intelligence. What is emotional intelligence? Emotional intelligence (EQ) is the ability to identify, use, understand, and manage emotions in positive ways to relieve stress, communicate effectively, empathize with others, overcome challenges, and defuse conflict. Emotional intelligence impacts many different aspects of your daily life, such as the way you behave and the way you interact with others.
If you have high emotional intelligence you are able to recognize your own emotional state and the emotional states of others, and engage with people in a way that draws them to you. You can use this understanding of emotions to relate better to other people, form healthier relationships, achieve greater success at work, and lead a more fulfilling life. Emotional intelligence consists of four attributes: Self-awareness – You recognize your own emotions and how they affect your thoughts and behavior, know your strengths and weaknesses, and have self-confidence.
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