How Often To Text A Girl You Just Met (Hint: NOT What You Think)
P-Funk here to teach you about a VERY important text messaging tip â How often to text a girl you just met.
Seriously fellas, listen up because this is one of the most common mistakes that guys make when theyâre texting girls.
I wish I could just give you a straight answer or rule of thumb for how often to text a girl you just met â I wish I could be like, âOh, there’s a girl you like? Just text her once a week,â â but unfortunately, I canât.
But every situation is just so different.
What I CAN do though, is drop some philosophy on yoâ bitch ass (j/k, youâre not a bitch) and teach you the CONCEPTS that you need to know in order to make this decision for yourself on the fly.
>>>>UPDATE: How to start a text conversation with a girl<<<<
Rule #1: Donât Be A One-Trick Pony
Texting is all well and good. Itâs fun, easy, non-invasive. You can try âSextingâ or âText Sexâ and get a little horny. You can send dirty texts and pictures back-and-forth. You can play fun texting games and get to know each other a little.
All-in-all, itâs money and most women dig it.
BUT, women also dig real connections.
If youâre reading this, youâre most likely a stinky-butt dude. No shame, I am too. But us dudes, weâre built WAY differently than women. I mean, like night and day when it comes to emotions and shit.
You and I, weâd bang pretty much any hot chick. Like literally, a hot chick could walk up to you, say some shit in a foreign language, touch your dick a little, start kissing you, and you would be ready to bust a nut.Â And I would be too.
But for women itâs different.
For women (and younger chicks too) a lot of the pleasure they derive from sex is because of the emotional connection they have with the person.
So though you may hear chicks joking about how theyâd bang XYZ dude, if it came down to it, theyâd definitely prefer to go on a few dates first. Donât get me wrong, this is not a steadfast law â there is the occasional cock-slut that just wants to bang every guy. But MOST girls get a significant amount of their pleasure from the emotional connection.
What the fuck does this have to do with how often to text a girl you just met?
The texting medium is not as rich as other forms of communication. Itâs just writing back and forth. You donât hear the other personâs voice, tone, or inflection. You canât see them. You canât touch or smell. Itâs very impersonal compared to hanging out in person, talking on the phone, or even chatting on AIM.
Even if youâre a text messaging master like me and my boys, the medium can be limiting.
Whatâs more, bitches WANT to talk on the phone. They like it.
So donât get so caught up in trying to figure out the perfect things to say to a girl in a text message, or the perfect time to text her and stuff that you forget your real goal is â which I presume is to bang (or have a relationship with) her.
If you can achieve your goal much more effectively by growing a pair of balls, picking up the phone, and making her horny with your voice, then donât hesitate to do that!
Not good on the phone? This will help your phone game.
Rule #2: Girls Want The Guy They Canât Have
People in general want what they canât have, but this applies to chicks in a big way â particularly younger chicks, like between 18-25. Older chicks are a bit different.
Just imagine two chicks sitting around and talking about a guy that both of them have a little crush on. But neither of the girls really likes the guy enough to make serious moves on him.
Now imagine that one of the girls hooks up w/ said dude.
In the instant that chick #2 (the girl that didnât get to hook up with the guy) hears about this, sheâs most likely going to get wicked jealous AND have a mysteriously strong attraction to the guy.
She may even be a slut and fuck him behind her friendâs back. She may literally ditch her friendship because of how jealous she is and how badly she now wants this guy that she couldnât have.
Thatâs how strong this principle is.
So how can you translate this into a rule for how often to text a girl you just met? Itâs easyâŠ
Rule #3: When In Doubt, Text LESS Frequently
If youâre texting a girl all the time, youâre her puppy dog. She can get you to do whatever she wants you to do.
You know it and so does she.
So in order to come off as that guy that she CANâT have, that guy that makes her super-horny, that guy that sheâll ditch her best friend forâŠ
You need to create some SCARCITY.
Ever heard of scarcity? It means when you donât have as much of something that you would like. For instance, you may say, âThere is a scarcity of water and Iâm thirsty mother fucker! Water is scarce around these parts.â
The easiest way to create scarcity in text messaging is to text LESS frequently.
Asking how often to text a girl you just met is not the right question. A lot of guys think in terms of like
âShould I text her everyday?â
âShould I text her once/week?â
âShould I text her twice/week?â
It is important, but another important question is how quickly you text her back. <———–Thatâs important, read it again.
In addition to thinking in terms of frequency, you need to think really critically in terms of TIMING too.
If she texts you and you text her back immediately, it looks like you were sitting around with your thumb up your ass, bored like a mo-fo, and not doing anything. Youâre her puppy dog.
But if she texts you and you donât respond until the next day, well then shit, look at you Mr. Celebrity. Sorry to interrupt your busy schedule. Can I get you a glass of champagne?
Thatâs where you want to be.
Alright, yâall â Iâm out. Hope you enjoyed this and have more insight on how often to text a girl you just met.
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