Some of us who experienced trauma at an early age learned how to split off into fragments. Then every time another injury came along we would fragment again. It would be like a trying to sharpen a knife where you keep shifting which side of the blade you are working on, only we might have many sides. So if someone asks if your blade is sharp, it becomes hard to answer. Or, compare it to a diamond and trying to shape it to maximum brightness.
By being honest with ourselves and others we can become a unified self. We will move toward the sharpness which should be ours. Our diamond in the rough will begin to be honed to maximum brightness. We will become honest with ourselves and others. Then our relationships with others will begin to shape the diamond into maximum efficiency.