How many times do we presume things?
I do. Many a time.
And I think we're all guilty of the same at some point or the other. We form our perceptions, our world views, based on past experiences. The cat having sat on a hot stove will never again sit on a hot one or a cold one either. I think to a large extent we're all like that cat.
We are prisoners of prejudices, of hatred, of grudges, of unrequited love, of unreciprocated affections, of expectations, of disappointments, of let-downs, of promises unfulfilled, of phone-calls not returned, of rejections, of anger, of jealousy, of pettiness that shouldn't have mattered at all in the first place, but which rankles like chains, imprisoning us in our own thoughts.
How can we break free?
The hard way is to squish the ego. Eat humble pie. Knock down the 'I' into 'i.'
The easy way is to remember that everything is transient.
Death is a great leveller. (Quote from The Secret Wish list)
So let go.
If you love someone , express it. (so what if you get rejected, at least you would have tried).
If you miss someone call them up. NOW (They may not be around tomorrow when you want to talk).
If you feel jealous of someone, work harder at what you are doing.
If you feel someone hasn't reciprocated your calls, your friendship, whatever you offered, say 'so be it'. They have made space for someone better to come into your life.
If you feel you lack the time to do a favour which someone has asked, say no. Don't be afraid of offending the person who asked. Your time is precious and limited.
If you feel you have been wronged, express it firmly but kindly. Whether or not the other party sees sense, you will respect yourself to have stood up for what you believe in.
Laugh a lot.
And if you have one friend who cheers you up, who stands by you, who is there for you when everything seems to be going wrong, hold on to them firmly and never let them go. Make every effort to keep that friendship going.
And yes, admire the flowers.
Drink a lot of water.
Click happy pictures. (lots)
LIVE...and make every moment count.
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