It’s a question that gets weirder the more you think about it
Men talk about their sex lives almost as much, if not in the same terms, as women. And among my closest friends we've actually always been kind of like girls. Analyzing everything, trying to figure out how each event made us feel. (Listen, that’s what happens when you make your career writing stuff - you think in terms of emotion and analysis.)
But here’s the weird thing. I know everything about my single friends’ sex lives. They’ll tell me about performance problems, they’ll give me body part reviews (that would probably stun and shock you as far as detail goes), they’ll tell me what predilections their partners have and those they have that have gone unrequited.
But I know absolutely nothing about my married friends’ sex lives. Nothing.
Marriage is a black-hole as far as information about sex goes.
Do you feel the same way? I have some ideas about why that is, but I want to hear from you first.
Do you know about your married friends’ sex lives? If not, why? What is it about talking sex when you’re married?