If they don't respect the person you want to be, they are not friends of any kind. Just shows how society shows that getting drunk is the "cool thing to do" and peer pressure crap like that eats away at the minds of people.
"Don't make me think. Just entertain me." What happened to society?
Sounds similar to me. Give him the space he needs...trying to approaching guys like me just makes us in an even worse state. I can't guarantee anything but let him make the first move (and make sure to notice it as it will most likely be a very minute notice).