After studying hundreds of romantic couples in long term relationships it was discovered that soul mates are indeed a certain combination of behavioral styles. This means that if you know your own personality you can then be sure of your soul mate's personality. There are only four behavioral styles which represent two pairs of soul mates.
1Cut a circle into four parts. People are divided into four styles with each having particular preferences. Cut a circle on a page into four quarters by drawing a vertical line and a horizontal line through the center. The left side should be labelled "Direct", the right side "Indirect", the top should be labelled "Open" and the bottom half labelled "Closed".
- The top left quadrant should be Direct/Open, the top right Indirect/Open, the bottom left Direct/Closed and the bottom right Indirect/Closed. These will represent the four behavioural styles.
- The two Closed types are soulmates and the two Open types are soulmates. In each soulmate relationship one person is direct and the other is indirect with very rare exceptions. So each romantic soulmate partnership consists of both either being Open or both being Closed, while one is direct and the other is indirect.
- Open people do not mind revealing personal information and so the two Opens get along well together. Closed people do not like revealing personal information and they get along well together, but they do not mix well because they are too different and almost never become long term romantic partners because the conversations between the two are not alike. Open people like to talk about feelings and emotions while Closed people like to speak about facts, success and competition so the two are not very compatible except in a social environment.
- Direct people are leaders and have loud, clear voices while indirect people are followers and speak softly most of the time. The Direct person likes to talk and the indirect person likes to listen which is why the opposites get along very well in long term relationships.
- So the soulmate for an Open/Direct is the Open/Indirect and the soulmate for the Closed/Direct is the Closed/Indirect.
2You can select the right combination from a group if that person matches your other important criteria of age, body shape, social status etc. This is not hard to do when you socialize in a certain venue where most of the people fit into your criteria. You will definitely be able to communicate better with your soulmate type than with other types which is probably why so many people end up with their correct soulmate. Disappointment often occurs when two people date who are not soulmates.Ad
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- Direct people maintain prolonged eye contact when you first meet and have clear and often loud voices. Indirect people maintain intermittent eye contact on meeting and have quieter speech. Direct people usually tell you what to do (often very politely) while indirect people ask you to do things. Use these signals with the other information to determine your style and then try picking up the behaviour characteristics of the people you meet.
- This does not refer to friends, only to romantic soulmates.
- If you harmonise well and communicate easily then do not bother checking. Even though it is rare, some people form lifelong partnerships with styles that are not their soulmate so do not end a relationship if there is nothing wrong with it.
Sources and Citations
- Dr.Tony Alessandra developed the four behavioural styles in "Relationship Strategies"
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