How can I have my child evaluated?
Diagnosing learning disabilities is controversial. Some experts believe learning disabilities are over diagnosed, a handy catchall for a host of normal differences in learning abilities. Diagnosing learning disabilities in very young children, under age 6 or 7, is particularly controversial because young children naturally learn at vastly different rates.
If you are worried about your child's competence with reading, writing, numbers, or speech, start by talking to others who are familiar with your child, such as his teachers. Teachers are usually adept at spotting the early warning signs of a learning disability. If your child's teacher hasn't already raised the issue with you, don't hesitate to bring up your concerns. Talk to your child's doctor, too.
If teachers and others share your concerns, you'll want to get your child formally evaluated. Evaluations are usually done in an office setting by a pediatric psychologist, neuropsychologist, neurodevelopmental pediatrician, or psychiatrist with a background in learning disabilities. Your child will be asked to do a variety of tasks using toys and educational materials designed for testing. It usually takes a couple of hours. Special-education staff at your child's school should be able to assist you in getting a formal evaluation.
Sometimes teachers — and doctors — don't notice the early signs of a disability. If you think this might be the case with your child, you may have to push for an evaluation. "Trust your instincts as a parent. I assumed pediatricians and everyone knew a lot about this, but I found out they're not always trained," says Nicki Arnold, a psychologist and mother of a son with learning disabilities.
What can be done to help a child with learning disabilities?
Learning disabilities are permanent and don't go away. But much can be done to help your child compensate for the disability and learn to work around the problem. Materials can be presented in different ways, and skills can be practiced over and over again in a setting that is supportive and patient. Children with learning disabilities can and do learn.
As a parent one of the most important things you can do is support your child and assist with positive learning experiences. The goal is to focus on your child's strengths. If your child struggles with spelling but loves animals, encourage that interest and help him to become an animal expert. Give your child lots of self-esteem boosters by encouraging his skills and passions. "Plan activities with your child that you know he can do, and be successful at," says Arnold, who nurtured her son's love for skiing when he was just 5 and wasn't doing well academically.
Don't try to be an expert on treating learning disabilities yourself. Your job is to provide encouragement, love, and patience and to seek out the experts who have the skills to help your child learn. If your child has been formally diagnosed, he may be eligible to receive free educational services through the public school system. There are also special private schools for children with learning disabilities, but these can be expensive. Consult with your child's teacher or local organizations serving children with disabilities.
Psychological counseling is also important. Children with learning disabilities often feel like failures, leading to low self-esteem. They often feel frustrated, and the frustration can turn into anger. They also are prone to depression. "The emotional or psychological issues are, in my mind, more important than learning that two plus two equals four," Liebman says. Parents need to learn how to handle their child's emotional outbursts. Although conventional wisdom says that you shouldn't encourage a child having a tantrum or crying fit, this kind of emotional release can be beneficial for kids with learning disabilities. If you stay close by your child during these times and tell him that you love him and know that things are hard for him, you'll show him that he doesn't have to struggle alone, you'll always be there to help him.
Remember to take care of yourself, too. Being the parent of a child with learning problems is stressful. Many disability organizations also offer support groups and counseling for parents.
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