Sometimes a disagreement turns into an argument and then it turns into a fight. If you continuously fight with your best friend, here is how to stop it.
1Find out exactly why are you arguing or fighting. Sometimes we end up fighting over really petty issues. We occasionally forget these issues and end up fighting over nothing.Ad
3Sit down with your friend and have a healthy chat. Listen to your friend and ask your friend to listen to you.
4Carefully consider any complains regarding your particular behaviour. View your behaviour from your friend's vantage point and take into account that he/she is your best friend. Try to change your way of behaving for the sake of your friendship. After all, you do not want to lose him/her forever.
5Spend some time away from your friend. If you are unable to reconcile immediately, then don't talk to your friend for a week or so. You will start missing him or her and that is the time to let your true feelings be known.
6Steer clear of actions and words that you know are likely to lead to disagreement or turn into a fight.
7Discuss the good times which you have spent together.
8Tell them how you feel about their ways of treating you and ask them how they feel.
9Show your consideration by not excluding them when you go out with your other friendsAd
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- Remember: Whenever someone or something seems to hurt you, nothing can actually hurt you or your feelings unless you grant permission for the hurt to come within you.
- Talk to your friend before the problem gets carried away.
- Keep yourself isolated, and start asking these questions
- What made you to fight with your friend?
- Did he/she hurt you or your ego?
- When you are having the "healthy chat" invite a trusted person to moderate and act as a "go between" so that things don't get out of hand.
- If you see that a fight of wills or words will escalate, it is best to separate immediately and go your own ways. Don't hang out for a while and give yourself and your friend some space apart. After your emotions have calmed, go back to her/him and tell them very politely that you didn't like what they said (or did).
- You can always compromise.
- Start small. Ask for a pencil sharpener or an eraser, then later try something different like asking, "Need help on the quiz"? Soon your friend will forget the fight and be back to normal.
- Don't be mean. Stay calm. If he or she has an issue, talk to them about it. Try to work it out.
- If you tell them exactly how you feel without cooling down after the argument, you may release your anger on your friend.
- If you are fighting way too much then you need to move on.