“Focusing on ourselves actually allows us to release other people to solve their own problems and frees us to contentment and even happiness for ourselves.” – Survival to Recovery
I like fixing things. Fixing problems can be a good thing. But trying to fix other people’s problems, when they haven’t asked me to, can create more problems.
I used to be confused about this, thinking I’m just being helpful. But AlAnon taught me to just listen, and if I’m compelled to help, say “would you like my help?”
I don’t this this perfectly or as often as I could, but I’m making progress slowly but surely, which is just another reason why ILML!