I admire the Duggar integrity, whatever else may be wrong with them, and their principle parenting philosophy: children learn by watching and modeling. In other words, the Duggars attempt to be the people they want their children to be. (For better or worse!)
You can read their book, 20 and Counting to learn more.
But if these wacky Christians aren't your cup of tea, you can learn to be not just a better parent but a better person in so many other ways. You can listen to your children calling you to become the person you want them to be: kind, loving, giving, sharing, calm.
Who are we parenting, anyway, most of the time? We parent our children, when we parent ourselves.
Now, if you're out there, feel free to disagree. I'm tired of this monologue. If you read this, why not comment? I promise I'll write you back. And I'd appreciate any other resources you've found that recognize the true work of parenting: making peace not just in our homes, but in the world.