Why one woman forgave her husband for living a double life just minutes from their family home - after ending their 18-year marriage
Wendy Plump: The author, who discovered her husband was living a double life close to their family home, has spoken about why she forgave him
A woman who forgave her husband after discovering he was living a double life just minutes from their family home, has spoken about monogamous relationships after ending their 18-year marriage.
Wendy Plump has experienced marital unfaithfulness as both a cheater and cheatee, and in her new book, Vow: A Memoir of Marriage, she discusses falling into 'sin,' how it lead to her husband’s own indiscretion and, eventually, the dissolution of her marriage.
In a recent AOL 'You've Got' interview, the author said: 'My husband, as I came to find out, had a girlfriend and child living about two miles from where I live.
'I drove over and I saw in front of the window a woman standing there with a baby in her arms.
'It was very, very, upsetting... but having had affairs of my own, it actually made it somewhat easier to forgive him.'
She continued: 'I had several affairs early in my marriage, and my husband had his affairs later.'
Her book, out February 13, discusses infidelity, the allure of someone new, and the stories behind 'the other man.'
It was in 2005 that Ms Plump’s friend told her that her husband was having an affair, which was 'not a shock. Actually, it explained a lot,' the book says.
But what Ms Plump was not
prepared for was the revelation that her husband also had another
child, living close to their family home.
'I would advocate for a less black and white harsh condemnation of infidelity and more of a "lets see how we think about it, in case it happens to us,"' she told AOL.
'It's very natural to be attracted to
other people. It does happen. And if you like and love the person that
you're married to, it doesn't have to be a disaster for anybody. You
just have to sort of acknowledge it and go on.
'That is what I wish I had have been more aware of when I first got married,' she said.
The book, while labelled 'glaringly honest,' has some readers feeling, as one noted, 'a bit dirty and depressed.'
Memoir of a marriage: Ms Plump's new book, out February 13, discusses marital indiscretions that led to the dissolution of her marriage
One reviewer wrote: 'A perfect how-to guide on "How to Ruin Your Marriage". Wife chronicles her infidelities and those of her husband resulting in the demise of their family life and devestating [sic] changes to the lifestyle of their two sons.
'She is unremorseful, but punishing about her husband's actions.'
Another commented: 'Thoroughly analyzed from all sides, Plumb’s conclusions are agonizingly researched, leaving the reader to ponder the disastrous consequences of marital dishonesty.'
Vow: A Memoir of a Marriage, is available from Amazon, and released on February 13.