Swollen Parts, Body Odor & More: Ask Dr. Chaves
Weekly Sex Q&A With Dr. Chaves
golden showersHi Dr. Chaves,
I personally am not into this, but why do some people like peeing and sex? I know this happens. Even with some celebrities it happens, and in porn, I’ve heard this happens with people when they're hooking up. Why in the world would someone do this?
CJ, New York, NY
Urine play is an urban legend for some, but I assure you that others beside the occasional celebrity and people in porn enjoy “golden showers.” Sure we can talk about past childhood experiences, love maps, trauma-related experiences, phobias turned sexual, and so on. But there’s no specific reason or theory explaining for sure why some folks enjoy it, and we can’t point to a single universal factor as to why some people like turning on the sprinklers for erotic purposes.
People engage in urine play or age play, role play, humiliation play, discipline play, d/s play (domination and submission), and a variety of other types of erotic fun. Some think it’s sick or weird, which it’s not. It’s just different. Others think it’s a mental health disorder, which it doesn’t have to be. Why does society feel the need to negatively label unique sexualities? Mental disorder classification according to the DSM IV suggests paraphiliac tendencies are accompanied by distress and functional impairment. I guess that means if you like water sports, engage in it consensually, and don’t feel bad about it — urine play is mentally sound.
So why would someone want to do this? I’ll give you the most scientific answer I know: They’re just kinky.
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